I tried brutal honesty for some periods of my life, but relationship with friends and family would worsen everytime. You dotn come across like honest, cut-the-bullshit kind of guy. people just think you are an asshole. asshole who has no respect to other people, to their feelings and etc.
If you want to live in society and function in group of people as a member - you need to learn to consider that your feelings are not always most important. you are not always most important. most of the time you are not importatnt at all, even so you would like to belive otherwise. so unless you are completely independent from society and live of the grid - you have only 2 choices. Be respectfull to others, or be a pricky, egoistical asshole..

In this age of low-testosterone males, it’s amazing to me that so many recoil in fear when someone gives a brutally honest (and solicited) opinion to even another friend. As far as relationships go, yeah, I lost quite a few along the way when I told them how they were annoying me, but I found one who loved that about me, and we have been together for 11 years.

As for the author’s example, well there’s a difference between giving solicited judgment or making a comment like that in a club or bar, and making that comment in the setting he did. Saying what’s on your mind should at least be filtered for some level of professional appropriateness.

You people are so gullible. When I went to the Radical Honesty website, I recognized the guy in the picture claiming to be “Brad Blanton”. He’s an improv comic in L.A. who I met at a Groundlings comedy class I took a long time ago. Hadn’t talked to him in years, but I called him and he spilled the whole story. The original “Brad Blanton” is a TV sitcom writer (not real famous but you’ve probably seen his name on one of the better shows) who wrote the Radical Honesty book as a goof. He started out doing phone interviews (claiming to be ‘visiting L.A.’ to the callers) and when he first got a request for a media interview, he hired my acquaintance to be his ‘face’. The Esquire writer wrote his whole article based on a press kit and then contacted “Brad” to get permission to publish his hoax (and THEN learned it was all a BIGGER hoax). After all, this is the same Esquire writer who did a piece in the First Person as God. They’re going to officially deny this, but I have permission to put it here. The whole “Radical Honesty” schtick is gaining momentum (Performance Brad is going to be on Oprah) and the author liked the idea of a little web-viral controversy (and knows MetaFilter). The original author has talked about revealing the hoax after selling X number of books, but I don’t know how serious he is. Anyway, fools, enjoy your “Radical Honesty”, but remember, one of the easier ways to tell a liar is when he goes out of his way to tell you he’s NOT lying. And I’m not lying.

it fucks relationships up.